Ijjjji: Confidence is bullshit

99.9% of the stuff you do in a day, you do without thinking. Like tying your shoe lace.

But on rare occasion you sense danger and approach carefully: Analyze -> Determine expected outcome -> Act accordingly.

Often the situation is not dangerous, but maybe you don't know this because its a new situation to you. But you soon realize its safe and start doing it without thinking.

But sometimes we use the careful approach a bit too long, so it turns into a habit with that specific type of situation.

'Confidence' is a word we use when we try to describe this situation. We often say we 'lack confidence' or that we 'lost our confidence' or that we need to 'build some confidence'. As you now can see, THIS 'CONFIDENCE' IS PURE AND UTTER BULLSHIT, its not a thing, its not something we lost or need to build, it does not exist and it has nothing to do with reality.

IN REALITY, its just a BAD HABIT. A habit of acting too carefully in a certain type of situation.

And habits are only changed by ACTING in a new way, repeatedly over time. This creates a new pattern that replaces the old one. It can be hard at first but always much easier soon after.

LETS GET PRACTICAL:

I'm sure you know approximately where you should start! This is just some tips you can try for fun if you want to:
-Replace needy goals like "get laid" and "get 3 #s a night" with this: NO MORE MR. CAREFUL!
-Develop some extreme macho body language habits (borderline cartoon-like) and have a humorous/non serious attitude about it. Do it for fun!
-Stop agreeing with MR.CAREFUL type guys on mASF. Laugh at them and stay in your new frame!
-Create a mental picture that illustrates how ridiculous it is to be carful around girls - be creative! Recall this picture when you start thinking around girls, to kick you out of that old habit!
-Change 3 seconds rule into 0 seconds rule.
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-(Fill in with your own ideas. Then take some action.)

(Sidenote: 'Skill', 'understanding' and 'experience' are other words we use in a similar way, as an excuse for why we cant or shouldnt act right now. Stuff like PU and public speaking does not require any of these. Al they require is adopting a 'shoe lace'-approach.)

as seen on Fast Seduction